The mental health of fathers, especially new fathers, matters.
When fathers are mentally healthy and in tune with their emotions, they’re usually more present with their children. And as a direct result, the kids thrive.
One in ten men–10% of men in America–suffers postpartum depression, and that rate raises to a whopping 50% if mom is depressed.
Unfortunately, there are plenty of resources for mothers suffering postpartum depression and major depressive disorders, but few for fathers directly.
In honor of Father’s Day, here are some mental health resources for fathers. Most resources are for both parents, and I will be including some of those here as well, with the focus being on men.
What if I’m in a Crisis?
If you or someone you love is experiencing a mental health crisis, try one of the numbers below.
- The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
- The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (Espanol): 1-888-628-9454.
- To reach a crisis counselor, text HOME to 741-741.
- If you or your loved one struggles with substance abuse, call the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) National Helpline at 1-800-622-HELP (4357) and they’ll hook you up with referrals to treatment centers.
If you or your loved ones are dealing with a mental health crisis, there is help out there. All you have to do is to have the courage to ask for help.
Resources for Fathers
- There are a few treatment locators available for the United States, specifically this one by Psychology Today and this one by SAMHSA. You can look for men’s health issues directly.
- ManTherapy is a website with a “rich mahogany” vibe, one that encourages men to seek help with memes and entertaining articles based on Anchorman.
- Heads Up Guys offers practical tips and support for men suffering depression by other men who have been there.
- Postpartum.net has a fabulous list of resources specifically for dads suffering from postpartum depression, including support groups and chats with an expert in mental health. They also have a helpline that you can call or text at 1-800-944-4773 (4PPD) in English and Spanish. From their website: “When you call the HelpLine you will be asked to leave a confidential message, and a trained and caring volunteer will listen and return your call or text during business hours. They will listen, answer questions, offer encouragement, and connect you with local resources as needed.”
- In a similar vein, GoodRx.com has a huge list of mental health resources for men, including online support groups, mental health therapy for men, and specific resources for Black men.
Resources Specific to Canada
- Here to Help provides a self-assessment tool that can be used by anyone.
- Triple P offers free online programs for parenting advice across a range of ages.
- Anxiety Canada offers a free online anxiety management program that I believe anyone can use.
- Bounce Back Ontario provides a free telephone-guided cognitive behavioral therapy session for depression and anxiety.
Men who suffer from depression and mental health challenges often suffer alone, keeping their detrimental feelings to themselves.
But it doesn’t have to be this way. There is help out there for men, especially fathers.
If you are a man who is suffering from depression, check out one of these websites. And if you are a woman who loves a man who suffers, then point him to this post.
You can conquer depression and other mental health challenges. It takes time, talking to someone, self-care, and possibly medication, but you can claw your way out of the pit.
Get help today.
I wish you well in your journey.